valentine's day Kids today are idiots...

It makes me sick to my stomach to read statistics showing that around 40% of teens think that Rhianna deserved to get beat up and that this type of violence is 'normal' in a relationship. That 40% includes girls.

Excuse me... what the hell are you talking about?

I watched Oprah's special about this yesterday. I wanted to physically shake the girl that thought Rhianna deserved it because its alleged that she hit Chris Brown. So what if she did slap him once or twice, he could have subdued her, kicked her out of the car, or whatever. Beating the crap out of her where is has bruises all over, was not called for or legal for that matter.

And now she's back with him... what does this say. It saddens me and scares me that kids think its ok.

While I have never been physically abused by a boyfriend, I did date one that was extremely controlling and tried to tell me that I was nothing without him. Luckily, he dumped me because I didn't adhere to his 'rules' the way I was suppose to. The next girl he dated (whom he cheated on me with, who was supposed to have been my friend) it was rumored that he did hit her. I can see him doing that, he had a very bad temper. Oh... and this was all during my sophomore year of high school. I count myself as lucky to get out of that relationship.

I really think it leads to parents taking a more active role in their children's lives. These poor girls have low esteem and think at some level they deserve this. Love doesn't hurt and it doesn't leave bruises. If they'll hit you once, they will hit you again. Don't fool yourself. Be Smart.